A former Australian escort has hit back at critics who slammed her controversial new book on ‘being financially successful in the sex industry’.
Gwyneth Montenegro, 39, who has famously slept with more than 10,000 men, has faced backlash online since publishing the book, which has been described as a ‘step by step guide on how to sell sex for money’.
‘Great now I have to worry about a woman trying to teach our kids to be w****s and sell their bodies,’ one Twitter user wrote.
‘I don’t understand why you’d write such a thing. You usually have so much class,’ another added.
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Gwyneth Montenegro, 39, who has famously slept with more than 10,000 men, has faced backlash online since publishing her new book on how to be a financially successful escort
But Gwyneth, who is now an expert in ‘intimacy behaviourism’ and an advocate for women’s rights, has defended her decision to pen the book and hit back at those who have criticised her.
Controversially I opted to teach young ladies how to survive as an escort.
Speaking to FEMAIL, Gwyneth, who was paid up to $1,000 an hour to sleep with the rich and powerful, said she accepts the book is a ‘controversial decision that will not sit well with all’.
‘However it’s a decision I did not take lightly. It’s a decision that took months and included feedback from co-workers, friends and clients before I committed to the project,’ she explained.
‘This is why I chose to spill the beans, to tell it all. Not to write some seedy “tell-all” tale of past sexual encounters.
Speaking to FEMAIL, Gwyneth said she accepts it is a ‘controversial decision that will not sit well with all’
Many have taken issue with the book and slammed Gwyneth via social media
‘That’s been done to death, and to be honest, I find the practice rather tacky. To betray the client-provider trust for a few extra dollars… that’s just not me. I like to think I have more substance.’
Gwyneth said she chose to reveal everything in a ‘different way’.
‘Controversially I opted to teach young ladies how to survive as an escort. Okay, to not only survive but to show her every tip and every trick needed to earn impressive amounts of money within the industry… and get out,’ she said.
‘I opted to reveal everything I did, from startup, to operating at the highest end of the industry. I decided to write a “How To” that will arm any current escort or someone considering being an escort to survive and flourish.’
Gwyneth said she is approached by escorts ‘almost weekly’ and ‘more and more reveal that they are disheartened, bitter, broken and financially struggling’ and ‘desperate’.
‘Controversially I opted to teach young ladies how to survive as an escort. Okay, to not only survive but to show her every tip and every trick needed to earn impressive amounts of money,’ she said
If a woman has already decided that she is going to do this line of work, nothing anyone can say will prevent her from doing it.
‘They are taking unnecessary risks. They are making unwise choices. And the industry is doing what it’s famous for; chewing them up and spitting them out,’ Gwyneth said.
‘Now girls don’t go to their career guidance representative and declare, “When I grow up I want to sell my body for sex”. Typically it’s a choice made for a deeper, more personal reason.
‘Often the decision is financially motivated or the result of something traumatic happening in their life. Either way we are dealing with human beings trying to make their life work.’
‘They are taking unnecessary risks. They are making unwise choices,’ Gwyneth said
Gwyneth said she simply couldn’t sit back and stay quiet.
‘With my much talked about 10,091 encounters behind me I don’t need the knowledge any more, so I passed it on,’ she said.
‘I sat down and wrote The Secret Taboo – The Ultimate Insider’s Guide to Being a Financially Successful Escort.
‘Wow, has it got people talking. Some are saying that it’s a generous thing to do, others are saying (with a few expletives) that it’s irresponsible to provide someone with the tools to flourish in the sex trade.
‘My opinion? If a woman is in a circumstance where she is contemplating sex work, treat her as the adult she is, give her the best knowledge possible. Reveal to her how to do the job safely, responsibly and with prosperity. Then get out and enjoy life again.’
‘Some are saying that it’s a generous thing to do, others are saying (with a few expletives) that it’s irresponsible to provide someone with the tools to flourish in the sex trade,’ she said
Gwyneth said she wrote the guide after starting work as an intimacy behaviourist.
After being approached by escorts, she realised the trade was ‘chewing them up and spitting them out’.
‘They are increasingly disheartened, bitter, broken and financially struggling. In an industry where it’s possible to make thousands of dollars in a day (in some cases in an hour) it seemed a massive contradiction,’ she said.
‘It became an enormous curiosity to me. Many would find a life of orgasms and money to be alluring.
‘Initially I put it down the the mental ramifications of the job. It’s not uncommon for an escort to spend everything she earns in an effort to feel better about herself, but in the end, the problem was was way simpler.
‘Many of these women were blindly entering the trade, allured by the money, but had little or no practical knowledge on what the reality of the trade was,’ Gwyneth explained
‘Many of these women were blindly entering the trade, allured by the money, but had little or no practical knowledge on what the reality of the trade was. Along with the big money comes big risks and they simply weren’t prepared.’
We are not in her shoes, we don’t live her reality. How can we sit back all smug and judgmental?
Gwyneth said she had ‘managed to navigate the trade over 15 years’ so decided to pass on the knowledge.
‘I literally wrote a step-by-step guide, revealing how I made it work for me,’ she said.
Gwyneth said teaching women how to make money in the sex industry is not an irresponsible decision.
‘The thing is, if a woman has already decided that she is going to do this line of work, nothing anyone can say will prevent her from doing it. She’s a human being, she has her reasons and her right to choose,’ she said.
Not all feedback has been negative however, with some praising her for writing the book
‘I have personally experienced some of the pitfalls of the industry and I’ve witnessed others experience the pitfalls as well.
‘If someone is going to make an adult decision to do this work, then I want them to consider all of the practicalities, emotions, safety, and financial ramifications. Just as importantly, I want them to plan an exit strategy, from the start.’
Ultimately, Gwyneth, who made clear in the book that she is avidly against illegal activity on any level, says society is ‘backwards’ in how we deal with sex.
‘I considered that I might be stepping on some toes writing this book but my heart is in the right place. In my opinion it’s not society’s place to judge, we are not in her shoes, we don’t live her reality. How can we sit back all smug and judgmental?’ She said.
‘As time went on and the letters of heartfelt thanks came in from those for whom the guide is intended, I knew I did the right thing by sharing the knowledge.’
‘As time went on and the letters of heartfelt thanks came in from those for whom the guide is intended, I knew I did the right thing by sharing the knowledge,’ she said
Gwyneth said the biggest misconception about escorts is that it is ‘easy’ and that they are all ‘nymphomaniacs’.
‘This industry attracts people who want to make money “the easy way”, but it can be a fool’s paradise,’ she said.
‘It can suck you in and then spit you out the other end, disillusioned and regretful. Most of the clients are not celebrities and often some of them project their anger, guilt and envy onto you.
‘It can be really hard on the head. I’m sure the average woman doesn’t fantasise about multiple sexual liaisons with men you wouldn’t give a second glance to in normal society.’
Gwyneth entered into the industry after a traumatic past which saw her drugged, taken away and gang raped leaving her feeling ‘unworthy’ and ‘unwanted by society’
Gwyneth made headlines in 2014 when she revealed her ‘secret past’.
She entered into the industry after a traumatic past which saw her drugged, taken away and gang raped leaving her feeling ‘unworthy’ and ‘unwanted by society’.
She now devotes her time to issues regarding female empowerment and particularly focusing on women achieving their dreams and goals despite adversity.
She also pioneered the field of Intimacy Behaviorism, is a Master Neuro Linguistic Programming practitioner and developed her own methodologies involving the mind’s influence on intimacy; Intimacy Programming and Intimate Profiling.
The Secret Taboo – The Ultimate Insider’s Guide To Being a Financially Successful Escort, is available online.
Excerpts from The Secret Taboo
The more senior client is not the piece de resistance of the escort’s little black book.
Before you think you can resist their wrinkly charm, need I remind you that if you want to make money in this field, there will be days when his money will be as good as the potbellied, stinky breathed but average 55-year old’s cash. Yes, of course, you don’t have to say yes to every client. I sure didn’t in my career. However, there are times in the year, which the economy is a bit tighter, there is an influx of more escorts on the game, and sometimes there’s not a lot of choices.
The truth is most of us fall far short of the perceived ‘perfect ideal’. What you are selling is a real woman with an individual look, personality, charisma and service. What you are selling is sensuality and an experience. You are selling how you make the client feel. You provide a service that is unique to you. You are you.
The quest for eternal youth is of course in reality a farce. And the assumption that you must be some young 20 something in order to be financially successful in this industry is absolute rubbish. Of course, there will always be men who want to always book the young women, but the reality is, that all sorts of women of all ages can run a successful business if they market themselves appropriately, are good at their job and fit their niche.
There are many reasons a client pays for sex. Sometimes it’s for variety of partners and activities, sometimes it’s to reassure himself that he has still ‘got it’. Sometimes it is for convenience because he is between relationships or has divorced and doesn’t want any emotional strings attached. Sometimes it is for control and dominance. Sometimes clients pay because they want to avoid love. For some clients it is an opportunity to connect and really be seen for the man that they are. Some of them want a woman’s touch and to be cared for. There are many clients who are looking for a spark and are chasing a latent sexual fantasy that they haven’t been able to express.